Have you ever thought how much you are happy? Are most people happier or less most people happier or less happy than you are? Out of 100, about 52% persons say they are “very happy” with their lives, with 43% reporting they are “fairly happy,” 3% said they are “not too happy “ and 2% undecided in US. In Britain, in a survey, only 36% claimed they are “very happy” which is down from 52% in 1957.
Many people who are not to happy or only fairly happy struggle with personal happiness simply because they do not rate their personal happiness as very important. However, our personal happiness is very important and should rate among your top priorities. In fact, it really is not selfish to consider your own happiness as your top priority. You must consider your own happiness as your top priority because:
You Are Important.
It is true. You are an important person. I don’t care about your profession, employment status, or income. But I mention here that you are important. Look back at your past. Think about how different the world around you might be if you had not been born. How has your life impacted others? Don’t dismiss small contributions as unimportant because the truth is that it is often these many small changes that lead to greater good.
Now think about your life right now. How many people depend on you among your family, friends, and community? If you stayed in bed tomorrow, how many lives would be affected by your absence?
Now think about your future. What potential exists for your life to impact the lives of others? Think about your home and family, your friends and community, and your professional life. Don’t think about probabilities but rather possibilities. You have the potential to change many lives just by being you and living your life. You are important because you are the sum total of all these effects: your past, your present, and your future. What you have done, what you are doing, and what you can do in the future are all the elements that make you an important and valuable person who deserves to be happy.
Your Happiness Concerns People Around You.
While your family and friends may not depend on you to make them happy, it is very true that if you are unhappy you can make it much more difficult for others around you to be happy.
There is an old saying that frequently crops up on T-shirts, “If Momma is not Happy, Nobody is Happy” This is often good for a laugh but we all know it is true. If a parent is unhappy then often the rest of the household will be unhappy too. Similarly, only one bad apple spoils the whole barrel, and this is true whenever any group of humans gathers together and if one member is not happy, his/her unhappiness can spread to infect the others in the group.
You deserve to be happy for yourself but you should also strive for happiness so if you are going to spread a mood, it should be a good one.
Your Happiness Affects The World.
How many times have you been simply going through life, not really in a good or bad mood, and then someone took a moment to give you a smile. What happened to your mood? Did you smile back? Another old saying is that smiles are contagious and this maybe a very powerful argument for your own personal happiness.
Can you imagine possessing the power to spread smiles? You do not need to imagine it because you already possess that power. You simply need to get yourself into the habit of smiling. Smile at your loved ones, smile at your friends, and smile at strangers on the street, and soon you will be making a strong contribution to make the world a happier place.
Your happiness is important because you are a significant person, your mood impacts your family and friends, and your happiness affects the world.
But how would you smile if there is some fear in your mind? No, it is not possible. If you smile, you may do it artificially and that acting may not last longer. You may burst into tear as someone touches your aggrieving point incidentally.
For Being Happy, You Must Overcome Your Fears Too.
Free your mind of fear-based emotions such as anger, hatred or jealousy to make place for love and creativity. True freedom is the ability to express who you are…through a natural flow of love and creativity. Freedom is first gained within your consciousness. Then because your outer life always reflects that which is within, you gain freedom in all aspects of your life.
If you are imprisoned with some fear, fear of any kind, you can not give free expression. These blockages of the natural flow of love and creativity are formed by the fear-based emotions that come with the challenges of human existence. Fear is the common factor underlying all disharmonious emotions. For example, fear of inadequacy can lead to jealousy and hatred, fear can lead to jealousy and hatred, and fear can generate an over-reaction of greed while fear of being overwhelmed by life’s challenges can lead to control issues.
Each of us arrives in this world with a life plan, which includes personal and social issues that we intend to work through during the lifetime. It also includes the location and surroundings of birth, as also the friends and associates that we are likely to meet as life unfolds.
The personal and social issues that we adopt in our lives are generally based upon the consciousness. For example, one issue being worked through these days is equality of the sexes. The old reality demanded separation of the power of the sexes into societies based on either matriarchy or patriarchy. The new reality, into which we are shifting, requires an equality of the sexes – an integration of that which was formerly separated into two. Every woman and every man is now playing some part in this massive social adjustment towards equality of the sexes.
As the purpose of the entire human experience is to work through and transform such issues, it is appropriate that we seek a solution to all of these fear-based issues. When enough people pass through the gateway into freedom of the spirit, then suddenly, the whole world will wonder why it hadn’t seen such an easy solution all along.
Society is building up to a critical mass where consciousness will fillip from ‘you versus me’ to ‘you and me’, a shift from competition to mutual cooperation. Every day, more and more people are making this shift to heart-powered consciousness. With a little inner work, these individual transitions to the new reality happen sooner and more easily.
Inner work primarily means daily meditation. When you make meditation your number one priority each and every day, then you are putting in the time that it takes to transform those societal issues within yourself and to work through your own challenges.
During meditation, you also connect to a wider range of your own consciousness. The deeper layers of your own consciousness can provide you with insights that literally catapult you out of issue-based blockages. As you allow these blockages to dissolve into the light of spiritual consciousness, you become free to express your true nature and follow your inner joy.
Spiritual study helps adapt your mind to expanded views of reality. Some concepts in spiritual philosophy also help along this journey into freedom of the spirit. For example, love and fear seem to act like two opposite poles of our duality consciousness. From the viewpoint of unity, love is all there is and fear is an illusion that detracts from the natural flow love through you. Love is a basic component of the consciousness that fills the universe. Love therefore, is always available and ready to flow naturally through your heart. You don’t have to earn or demand it, just let it flow.
Another key philosophy gaining freedom is “Live and let live”. When you allow other people to be the way they are, your energy is not absorbed in anyone’s futile dramas. Instead, you are able to use all of your energy to follow your joy and help make the world a better place. You can recognize, love, and person you know, regardless of their outward behaviour or how much it may seem to need improvement. It is this unconditional love that heals the world, person by person, and there is no shortage of its supply.
Acceptance of yourself is also vital. Accept who you are now unimproved, with your current motivations and be thankful that you are exactly who you are. You planned to adopt a certain package of feelings and circumstances in your journey through life. There is nothing ‘wrong with you at any point along the journey. Things that appear to need improvement are challenges, not faults, so enjoy the ride and gain the most from the experiences that you came to explore.
Thomas Edison carried out over 6,000 experiments before perfecting the first electric light bulb, but he never referred to any of those experiments as failures. Instead, he called each one step closer to success. You must carry on the same spirit. Freedom from fear-based emotions allows true, unconditional love to flow through your heart and true creativity to fill your mind as you pursue your deepest inner joy.
When you see fear as the hollow illusion that it is and allow your actions are influenced not by fear, but by your unconditional love for the people around you and, equally, for yourself. Unconditionally loving yourself means allowing yourself to develop loving relationship where mutual cooperation, not competition or contention, becomes your daily reality.
People’s greatest fears melt away in the face of heart-powered, inner awareness. Your intuitive insight is your connection to the part of your mind that knows each situation, even before it occurs. When you listen to that still, small voice within, you know where you need to be and when. With intuitive insight, you will never become caught up in unfortunate events that are not of your making. For example, if an aircraft is destined to crash, you simply won’t be on it if you need information to bring yourself back to health, you will know where to find the answers that are the best for you. Even the fear of loneliness will never cloud your heart because, with love in your heart, you will never be left wanting for good company.
Love and insight will pour from your heart if you let them. Give yourself the gift of true freedom, the freedom to express who you are through a natural flow of love and creativity. And surely, you will be happier once you overcome your fears.
Be Happy – Feel Happiness by Overcoming Your Fears.