Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 48)

Once in a while you meet someone, and soon you both discover the two of you are truly something special to each other…You share your thoughts and feelings so relaxed, so openly, and right away you know your friendship’s truly meant to be. Life is not about keeping secret. It is not about how many friends you have or how accepted you are. Not about if you have plans this weekend or if you are alone. It is not about who you are dating, who you used to date, how many people you have dated, or if you have not been with anyone at all. It is not about who you have kissed, it is not about sex. It is not about whom your family is or how much money they have or what kind of car you drive or, where you are sent to school. It is not about how beautiful or ugly you are. Or what clothes you wear, what shoes you have on, or what kind of music you listen to. It is not about if your hair is blonde, red, black, or brown or if your skin is too light or too dark. Not about what grades you get, how smart you are, how smart everybody else thinks you are, or how smart standardized tests say you are. It is not about what clubs you are in or how good you are at your sport. It is not about representing your whole being on a piece of paper and seeing who will accept the written you.

REAL LIFE JUST IS NOT as such. But, life is about who you love and who you hurt. It is about who you make happy or unhappy purposefully. It is about keeping or betraying trust. It is about friendship, used as sanctity or a weapon. It is about what you say and mean, maybe hurtful, maybe heartening. About starting rumors and contributing to petty gossip. It is about what judgments you pass and why and who your judgments are spread to. It is about who you have ignored with full control and intention. It is about jealousy, fear, ignorance, and revenge. It is about carrying inner hate and love, letting it grow, and spreading it. But most of all, it is about using your life to touch or poison other people’s hearts in such a way that could have never occurred alone. Only you choose the way those hearts are affected, and those choices are what life’s all about.

One day an expert was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration those students will never forget. As he stood in front of the group of high-powered overachievers he said, “Okay, it is the time for a quiz.” Then he pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouthed Mason jar and set it on a table in front of him. Then, he produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar. When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, “Is this jar full.” Everyone in the class said, “Yes.” Then he said, “Really?” He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. Then he dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the spaces between the big rocks. Then he asked the group once more, “Is the jar full?” By this time the class was onto him. “Probably not,” one of them answered. “Good!” he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in and it went into all the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, “Is this jar full?” No!” the class shouted. Once again he said, “Good!” Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked up at the class and asked, “What is the point of this illustration?” One eager beaver raised his hand and said, “The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard, you can always fit some more things into it!” “No,” the speaker replied, “that’s not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is: If you don’t put the big rocks in first, you’ll never get them in at all.” What are the ‘big rocks’ in your life? A project that YOU want to Accomplish Your Dreams? Time with your loved ones? Your faith, your education, your finances? A cause? Teaching or mentoring others? The world is not interested in the storms you encountered, but whether or not you brought in the ship. Man’s power of choice enables him to think like an angel or a devil, a king or a slave. Whatever he chooses, mind will create and manifest. Other people’s opinion of you should not have to become your reality.

You have a choice! – Such powerful words that no doubt we have all heard time and time again. However, I believe it is worth another mention. Inevitably there are those that clearly have not made the choice to be where they are at in there life! The wonderful truth is that where you are now has absolutely nothing to do with where you can end up! Listen carefully, everyone (even you!) deserves to be happy in what they do each day! Unfortunately in many cases the foreseeable consequences of making the necessary changes appear to be to much risk for us to take on, therefore many choose to stay right on the path that they are on! Do not get me wrong I am the first to admit that change is scary. By the same token I can assure you that if you continue to choose the unhappy path that you are on you will keep on getting what you have!

“One cannot change one’s future… but, one can change one’s habits.
And sure His habits will change His future.”

The simple truth is that change can be hard, and anyone that tells you that it will not come with sacrifice is simply not shooting you straight! I am reminded of a time in my life where I had become a bit complacent. I was working in the family business, things were good , but I had an overwhelming feeling that I needed to make my own place in life. I left and moved several states away. I worked in a job that I was not particularly happy with (but I knew it was what I had to do at the time). Over the course of time new opportunities opened up for me. I relocated back to my home town wound up in a Computer company. From there I opened up my own consulting business. And now, other people close to me say that I am a successful consultant having made impact over their lives.

The bottom line is that the choice I had to make was very difficult, but I did it! And as a direct result of my willingness to leave my “comfort zone” my world has been opened up to new and fascinating opportunities! The fact is that it was hard! At times I wanted to turn back. However, now I can say without a doubt that I am so thankful that I didn’t!. You may consider it to Accomplish Your Dreams.

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams.

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